My Writing

Welcome to my portfolio featuring a selection of writing covering a wide variety of topics from serious articles about parenting and divorce, to informative pieces on dealing with relationships, or more light-hearted fare that’s more for the fun of it. I have also have written from a more retrospective and personal level about writing and life in general on the Brit Darby blog, where you can also find out more information about my novels.

I would describe my non-fiction work as “research and write” creations on any topic needed, wrapped into a non-fiction literary style. My fiction work comprises a wide range of historical novels, dating anywhere from the 10th to the 19th century, having cut my “research teeth” on historical eras from the wild American west, Medieval England, Ireland and Scotland, to the intriguing and tumultuous Viking age.


“Walk-Away Wives”

Who are the “walk-away wives?” It’s an interesting term — one that refers to women accounting for two-thirds of the divorces filed today. Half of all marriages end in divorce now, and statistics show the majority of divorces are wives walking away from often long-time marriages. Read more…

ABCs Of Communication

The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. ~George Bernard Shaw

Are we speaking the same language?

That’s a good question. After all, some say men are from Mars and women are from Venus, so it may seem we speak different languages. Our individual brains often interpret the same words as having different meanings. Add body language and facial expressions, different cultures and other factors, and we can find ourselves lost in a muddle of confusion and emotion when trying to communicate with other people. During a conversation, most of us have had a knee-jerk reaction that was defensive, judgmental, and angry, starting a downward cycle that eventually tumbled into chaos between us and the other person. Read more…

Alcoholism Affects Entire Families

Anyone who has grown up with a family member who is an alcoholic will understand this statement, especially the children of an alcoholic. The drinking itself is seriously destructive to the abusing person, but a parent’s behavior while under the influence causes great harm to exposed children; harm that can continue to affect them as adults. Read more…

All’s Fair In Love And War

Or is it? Even in warfare, there are rules. So what are the rules when it comes to love?

Our favorite psychologist of daytime TV, Dr. Phil, has said, “How you argue — especially how you end an argument — can determine the long-term success or failure of your relationship.” He explains, “Disagreements are going to occur. The question is, do you go into it with a spirit of looking for resolution or do you go into it with a spirit of getting even, vengeance, control? You’ll never win if you do that. If you make your relationship a competition, that means your spouse has to lose in order for you to win. It’s not a competition, it’s a partnership.” Read more…

Always A Bridesmaid, Never A Bride

A well-known idiom (and cliché), always a bridesmaid, never a bride, is defined as someone who never manages to fulfill their ambition – they get close, but never quite achieve their goal. In this case, let’s look at its literal meaning as applied to a woman who has never walked down the aisle as a bride. Read more…

Are You Really Listening?

Life revolves around communication. Almost everything we do requires it. But communication isn’t all about speaking — listening is just as important. Communication is vital in daily life; fail to listen and see how fast relationships crumble.

Why is it that there are hundreds of opportunities to improve our speaking abilities yet few ways to master the art of listening? Perhaps it’s the difficulty in learning how to listen … really listen with our hearts and souls, not just our brains. Read more…

Blending A Family

A stepparent is so much more than just a parent; they made the choice to love when they didn’t have to. ~Author Unknown

With divorce statistics hovering around 50 percent, it is probable that you may have a blended family consisting of yours, mine and ours. So how do you bring them all together into a single, loving household? Read more…

Death, Taxes, And The Ex

As the old saying goes, nothing in life is certain but death and taxes. So true. But considering the fact that nearly half of all marriages end in divorce, it’s possible that at some time in your life, you may have to deal with the death of an ex-spouse. So what do you do, how do you act, what is appropriate? You may also be asking yourself: Why do I care, why does it hurt, why can’t I get past this? Read more…

Divorce And Depression

Divorce is hard. It’s painful, it’s messy, and it’s heartbreaking.

There are plenty of articles out there telling you how to handle divorce, from exploring options, costs and how to get a divorce, to ways of letting go once it’s final and what to expect next. If you have children, you want to keep your divorce family-friendly. You may need to learn more about child support and how it is determined, or  about some typical approaches to visitation. Being prepared helps. You can’t do too much research. Read more…

Divorce And Finances, Part I

Breaking up may be hard to do, but navigating divorce can seem impossible. It’s a road full of emotional, legal, and financial pitfalls: the chaos is stressful, painful, and even frightening. For now, let’s talk about the financial aspect of divorce and the importance of understanding the realities of it. Read more…

Divorce And The Narcissist

Dealing with anyone who has a narcissistic personality disorder can be difficult. Dealing with a narcissistic partner or spouse during a divorce can be a nightmare. Read more…

Divorce Cost — Not Just Dollars And Cents

When a couple marries, they are making a commitment to one another. Love is driving the bus and the vows are heartfelt. Making a commitment to share lives until “death do you part” is done so willingly and with good intentions. Read more…

Divorce In The Military

The process of getting a divorce for military personnel is basically the same as it is for civilians. The laws of the state the divorce petition is filed in govern the process, leaving the military’s authority limited. In general, the military considers divorce and separation to be a private civil matter, but there are a few additional things you need to know. Read more…

Divorced And Dating Again

Here’s some sound advice for anyone trying to get back into the dating game, regardless of gender.

Holding onto the baggage of a broken relationship can continue to harm you long after the divorce papers are signed. It’s easier to place the blame of a failed marriage on your ex, but an honest self-assessment will probably reveal the part you played in its destruction as well. Placing blame means you haven’t forgiven, but forgiveness will set you free to move on, baggage free. It also will allow you to be the great co-parent your children need. Read more…

Divorced Parents And The Holidays

Ho, ho, ho—hum. If you’re a divorced family and have transitioned from one family into two, the holidays can be a trying time. What once was considered a wonderful time of the year can be different after a divorce. But it doesn’t have to be a time of sadness and despair. Read more…

Do I Need A Divorce Attorney?

Couples with children who are going through a separation or divorce will learn some new terms such as “parenting plan,” “custody” and “visitation” (or “parenting time”). If you’re in this position, you probably have already determined the custody arrangement (how the caretaking responsibilities will be shared), and hopefully made most of the important decisions that need to be part of a parenting plan. Now you must tackle visitation — the plan or schedule for how time with the children will be shared. Basically, this means who gets the children when, where, and for how long. Read more…

Doing Divorce Differently

Is “Zeal” Appropriate In Family Law?

Part I

We must realize that divorce is not purely a legal problem, but one with legal implications. We should honor and recognize all the elements involved — legal, psychological, emotional, and financial. With more than 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, isn’t it time to rewrite the script and dance within these dynamic parameters, rather than around them? Read more…

Don’t Approve Of Ex’s Partner, What now?

My first question to you is: Are there their children from your prior relationship that you are now co-parenting? If the answer is no, then it’s simple, it is no longer any of your business who your ex is with. They are an adult, making their own choices in life. You have no say in the matter. Read more…

Empty House, Empty Heart

Divorce can leave you feeling a bit fearful of what lies ahead. You may fear living life on your own. What’s even scarier, maybe you imagine being alone, branded a plus none, isolated and lonely. The silence may seem deafening. Perhaps the emptiness of your house reflects your sudden aloneness at every turn, echoing in your empty, broken heart, one shattered into a million pieces by your failed marriage. Read more…

Evolution Of Marriage

The story of marriage begins millions of years ago. Immediately some of us have the vision of a cave man bonking a cave woman over the head and dragging her away by the hair. Not so romantic in our eyes. Anthropological studies have revealed the relationship between early males and females was not monogamous. They had sex with many partners. Fruit, nuts and insects were shared as a predominant exchange for favors. Read more…

Fido And Fluffy: Family Or Property?

It’s becoming more common to see custody battles over the family pets these days, but for the most part, the courts and prevailing judges look at our furry kids as property, not family. They are to be divvied up like our possessions — you get the flat screen TV and I get the dog. And that’s when the war begins. Read more…

Financial Dos And Don’ts During Divorce Part II

Be prepared. Start a document roundup—gather all financial documents and make copies. Some documents will be obvious and easy to find, others may take time and effort to locate. We’re talking everything, so the sooner you start, the better. Read more…

Financial Dos And Don’ts After Divorce Part III

The grim reality of post-divorce life can be difficult. Here are some dos and don’ts for handling finances after the divorce. Read more…

First Comes Love …

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage. It’s a children’s rhyme that most of us are familiar with, one used to taunt and embarrass other kids about kissing and love, and even worse, what comes after. Read more…

Fraud In Family Law

Fraud (Law.com) is defined as “the intentional use of deceit, a trick or some dishonest means to deprive another of his/her/its money, property or a legal right.” The standards for fraud can differ in criminal court versus family court. In the broad field of family law, there are several areas that one can experience fraud, such as child support, divorce, discovery, spousal support, paternity, and prenuptial agreements. Read more…

Help My Child Buy My Ex Gifts?

It should be a goal to make every divorce an amicable one. It is with this spirit we answer this question: yes, yes, yes. Want to give a lump of coal to the ex for Christmas? Don’t. Take the high ground. It’s about your children and their love for the other parent, it’s not about you and your ex’s relationship. Read more…

History And Mystery Of Holiday Traditions

Santa Claus as we know him today may be a bit different than historical versions, but the sentiment is much the same as it was back in the third century. St. Nicholas was born in 280 A.D. in what would be modern-day Turkey, and was known for his kindness to others, giving away his inherited wealth to help the sick and poor. Such acts of generosity made him very much admired and he became known as the protector of children and sailors. His feast day was celebrated on December 6th, the day of his death, and by the Renaissance, St. Nicholas was the most popular saint in Europe. Read more…

Hollywood And Sex

In the beginning of the world – the world of movies, that is – sex and nudity was implied, not seen. We were given the big screen kiss and embrace, leaving us with an iconic image of romantic characters, the moment sending shivers down our spines, their words forever branded in our minds. In Gone With the Wind, Rhett tells Scarlett, “You should be kissed, and often.” As the ocean rolls up over the two lovers in From Here to Eternity, Karen whispers, “Nobody ever kissed me the way you do.” And who knew sharing a plate of spaghetti could be so romantic, Lady and the Tramp’s first kiss was so memorable, no words were needed. Read more…

Horses + Therapy = Equine Therapy

Many of us have heard of guide or working dogs, but what about working, guiding horses?

Using animals to assist in therapy has been around for ages, as far back as ancient Greece. But as a formal practice, animal therapy is a fairly new concept. A growing number of psychological professionals recognize the therapeutic benefits of animal contact. A recent development is using horses in the treatment of patients with autism, behavioral problems, addictions, depression, and Asperger’s, to name a few. Read more…

How A Cheap Divorce Can Go Wrong

If you go online and search for a cheap divorce, you will see many links to various sites, all touting divorce priced anywhere from $29 to $299. It looks quick and easy. But is it really?

A divorce is a major, life-changing decision, because in today’s world, divorce can be very complicated. It will literally affect the rest of your life, and if children are involved, your children’s lives. Yet, for many couples, the tendency is to opt for the quick and easy route, believing that the cheaper the better because that money is needed for other things now. It can also be a time where stress and panic of the unknown are guiding them, rather than logic and common sense. Read more…

How Is Spousal Support Determined?

Often, when a couple separates or divorces, spousal support or spousal maintenance may be a part of the settlement. The old-fashioned term was alimony, but that has been, for the most part, replaced by more gender-neutral terms. Support can be paid to either the husband or the wife, depending on who has the stronger financial position in marriage. Regardless of the term used, it’s all basically the same thing, a payment from one spouse to the other to help equalize finances when the marital household is split into two. Read more…

I’m Divorced — Now What?

The Divorce Decree is signed and it is official, you are divorced. Now what? At Wevorce, we end our mediations with a Divorce Ritual. We honor the end of a marriage and welcome the opportunity to begin again. It is our goal to help you both take your very first steps into the next stage of life as single individuals with hope and vision. Read more…

Introducing Your Kids To A New Partner

Dating again after a divorce or separation can be scary, even for adults. But imagine how it feels for the children to see their mom or dad with someone new.

The first step in moving on may be to examine the end of your relationship with your children’s biological parent. When did it end and how (divorce, death, separation)? Why did it end and do your children know the reasons? Was it due to an affair, was it a violent relationship, or did your ex just walk out? Did it end with anger, threats and accusations? Or was the end respectful and mutually agreeable? Read more…

Is Divorce Guilt Altering How You Parent?

If you are a parent and divorced, you may find yourself dealing with divorce guilt. It’s part of the post- divorce package. Your children have transitioned from one family into two; the family dynamics has been altered dramatically because you and your ex couldn’t stay married. It was best for the two of you, all options had been exhausted and you made your decision. Staying together was not in your best interest, nor was it in the best interest of your children. Read more…

Is It Normal Conflict Or Abuse?

Conflict is a normal part of any relationship. Neither good nor bad, it’s merely a part of life. Resolving conflict in a positive way leads to healthy growth.

It’s how we deal with conflict that matters. The true versus perceived issue varies with each individual. To find resolution, you must first understand what the conflict is all about. To resolve the problem, you need to assess and understand what the needs or concerns are of those involved, and discover whose and what needs are currently not being met. Read more…

Keeping Your Divorce Family-Friendly

How did I end up in this nightmare? I am a stranger to these dark emotions now living inside me. Who am I? When did I cross over the line, and will I ever cross back?

What powerful questions. The emotional turmoil that assaults the body and soul when we begin down the bumpy, and often destructive, road to divorce can be traumatic. These are questions in Judge Michele Lowrance’s introduction to The Good Karma Divorce, a book written for people facing the end of their marriage. Read more…

Keeping Secrets

Many neuroscientists believe that keeping secrets is hazardous to your health. In their view, it’s better to fess up, or just refuse to participate in other’s secret keeping. It has to do with the brain, keeping quiet stresses it. Humans are wired to tell the truth and when we don’t, when we hold onto a juicy tidbit, the brain isn’t performing its natural function. Read more…

Kid’s And Allowances

Should you give your children an allowance?

It’s a personal decision, but it seems most parents do. According to a 2012 study, “AICPA Survey Reveals What Parents Pay Kids For Allowance, Grades,” 61 percent of parents do pay their kids an allowance. Out of those parents that pay allowances, 54 percent start doing so when their children are about 8 years of age. Read more…

Let’s Get Our Giggle On

Okay, I couldn’t resist this donkey duo, they made me laugh. And that gave me the idea for this article. I admit, I don’t think I laugh enough and according to my research, we all should laugh more. Why? Because it’s good for us! Read more…

Listen To Your Kids — It’s Important

As a parent, you want to build your child’s self-esteem. That’s pretty obvious. What may be less obvious is the fact that good communication – positive two-way communication – is essential to doing just that. And the earlier the better. Setting a pattern of clear, open discussions with your child gives them a sense of feeling worthy and loved — a definite self-esteem builder. Read more…

Looking Through A Child’s Eyes

Remember how it felt to believe in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy? Maybe you took some old blankets and built an entire castle, where you battled dragons and giants for hours on end.

Kids have a unique and wonderful way of viewing the world. Their opinions can surprise us, and sometimes, even we adults can learn from their innocent logic. It’s especially important for parents to take time to understand how their own children view the world, help them interpret what happens in it, and encourage them to express thoughts and feelings. Read more…

Making the Tough Decision to Divorce

Ending a marriage is one of the most serious decisions we can make in life. It’s hard to know when it’s time to call it quits. Deciding to divorce is a difficult, heart-wrenching process and should not be undertaken lightly. Make the choice understanding what lies ahead for you, both good and bad, and with a clear vision of the goal you have for your future life. Read more…

Marriage And Financial Infidelity

Marriage is a covenant of love and trust between two people. You have promised to build a life together, one based on sharing and honesty. Yet, for many, infidelity breaks the trust and undermines the love. There are different kinds of infidelity; the most familiar is when a partner betrays their spouse by having an affair. But financial infidelity can damage a relationship just as surely, leaving a couple with long-term money problems, and often, when the issue goes unresolved, it leads to divorce. After all, money is the most often cited reason for splitting up. Read more…

Marriage, Divorce, And Hollywood

Statistics show that the divorce rate in the U.S. hovers around 50 percent, with this rate inching higher with each subsequent marriage. According to what we read — and we all know what we read is the truth and nothing but — Hollywood divorces are running rampant at an even higher rate. Read more…

Monsters, Ghouls And Goblins … Oh My!

Thousands of years ago, an ancient Celtic festival called Samhain (pronounced sow-in) took root in the Old World. Samhain was a night to celebrate the end of summer and harvest, before the long, dark winter began. The celebrants built huge bonfires and dressed in costumes (usually animal heads/masks and skins), believing that the ghosts of the dead returned to earth to cause trouble for the living, so it was best to blend in with the ghouls. Read more…

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

Is it possible for a couple to overcome the betrayal of a cheating spouse and repair broken trust in a marriage?

For many, it’s a black-and-white world, and the question above may show us how cheating is viewed in that world. It’s certainly true that many marriages end because of that belief. Infidelity is one of the most hurtful, damaging and emotional rule-breaking acts that can happen in a marriage — a betrayal of a couple’s vows that is hard for many to get past. Read more…

Options For Visitation Schedules

Couples with children who are going through a separation or divorce will learn some new terms such as “parenting plan,” “custody” and “visitation” (or “parenting time”). If you’re in this position, you probably have already determined the custody arrangement (how the caretaking responsibilities will be shared), and hopefully made most of the important decisions that need to be part of a parenting plan. Now you must tackle visitation — the plan or schedule for how time with the children will be shared. Basically, this means who gets the children when, where, and for how long. Read more…

Peace Provoker Mahatma Gandhi

“In a gentle way, you can shake the world.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

On October 2, 1869, Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi came into this world, and on January 30, 1948, he left it. His life was a testament to his philosophy and practice of peaceful civil disobedience, and has inspired others to similarly seek peaceful resolution of problems. Read more…

Pets Can Help Children Cope With Divorce

Divorce can be one of the most difficult times in anyone’s life — right up there on the stress meter with death. Adults can struggle with the roller-coaster ride of emotions, so imagine how awful it is for children. The parents they love may be fighting, and worse, getting a divorce. They won’t understand. They may even feel deserted and discarded, probably even angry. Their lives are being turned upside down. Read more…

Putting Children First In Divorce

Most parents would agree that their children’s best interests should come first, even when it comes to divorce. Unfortunately, it’s not so simple. Divorce is difficult; nothing about it is easy. It’s a time filled with fear, anger, sometimes even hatred, and parents can find themselves so preoccupied with their own turmoil, that they are unable to distinguish their children’s needs from their own. Read more…

Scared Straight About Traditional Divorce

A traditional divorce (think Kramer vs Kramer) generally takes place in the adversarial legal system, and it is not a pretty picture. So why is America turning to divorce at a rate of nearly 50 percent? Have we become so used to living the good life, the easy life, that the moment things get tough, we head for the exit? Are we convincing ourselves that by ending an unhappy marriage, we will find bliss with someone else? Read more…

Sexting — What’s the Scoop?

With so many technical platforms available today, social interaction with others has never been easier. Good or bad, sex is part of that socialization. Technology allows for easy taking and instant sending of pictures and videos now, so folks are no longer simply doing it via text, they are also including explicit visual material as well. Read more…

Social Security And Your Ex

As many divorcees reach retirement age, one important thing to brush up is the rules pertaining to Social Security. In fact, even if your marriage ended in divorce, you may be able to receive benefits based on your ex’s earnings history. Read more…

Spouse Doesn’t Know I Want A Divorce

If you’ve done all the right things in making the decision to divorce — talking to a therapist, clergy, or close friend; researching and educating yourself on the rules and proper steps to take depending on the state where you live; consulting with an attorney — and know in your heart your marriage is over, then you have two scenarios before you, depending on whether or not your spouse is aware of your unhappiness and that your marriage is struggling. Read more…

Sticks And Stones

Many of us remember hearing or saying this as children: “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me!” Is this true? How does the body differentiate between physical pain and emotional (social) pain? Or does it? Read more…

Supporting A Friend During Divorce

Today’s reality is that almost everyone knows someone who is going through a divorce. Whether it’s a family member, a friend, or a co-worker, you want to know what to say, what to do, how to help. Perhaps you are divorced yourself; if so, you have a first-hand perspective on what they are experiencing. Read more…

Teenage Rebellion

“You’re tearing me apart!”— Rebel Without a Cause, a 1955 Warner film starring James Dean

Rebel Without a Cause is a story about a rebellious, troubled teen, Jim Stark, and his family, friends, and enemies. The movie starred James Dean, who died in a tragic automobile accident only a month before its release. Teenage rebellion wasn’t a new story in 1955, and in 2014 it still rings true to the trouble some parents have with their teenagers. Read more…

Telling Your Children About Divorce

It’s got to be the worst part of getting a divorce — telling your children. You’d rather walk across hot coals than sit down and explain to them that Mom and Dad are ending their marriage. This will possibly be one of the scariest moments in your life. But how? Where do you start? How on earth can you put it all into words they will understand? Read more…

Thanksgiving Day

Mary had a little lamb, its fleece was white as snow;
And everywhere that Mary went, the lamb was sure to go.

You may be wondering what a children’s nursery rhyme has to do with the Thanksgiving holiday tradition. It was the author of that little ditty, Sarah Josepha Hale, who launched a letter-writing campaign to have Thanksgiving declared a national holiday. Finally, in 1862, at the height of the Civil War, Abraham Lincoln made Thanksgiving Day official. Read more…

The Flip Side … Mama’s Boy And Daddy’s Little Girl

Married to a Mama’s Boy

It may have been cute, even endearing when you first met and started dating, after all, a son should love his mother, and having a great relationship with her is a sign of a good son. But how tied is he to his mother? Does it seem as if there is still an invisible umbilical cord stretching the distance separating them? Has his behavior crossed some invisible line from being a good son to becoming a bit uncomfortable for you, or unhealthy when viewed in the proper light? Read more…

The Flip Side … How Men Deal, How Women Deal

A lot of how we deal with others, especially during conflicts, starts when we are children, and gender plays a large part in how we learned to interact with others.

How Men Deal

In general, boys play rougher. Competitiveness and aggression is ingrained in their playground antics, and they are less concerned about how others feel. When they are grown men, behaviors learned early in life can mold how they react in adult relationships, whether at work or at home, publicly or privately. Real more…

The Flip Side … Men And Divorce, Women And Divorce

Men and Divorce

The decision to divorce may be one of the hardest decisions a person makes in life, regardless of gender. But it may not surprise most of us that men deal with divorce differently than women. If you’re a divorcing father, knowing how to deal with what is yet to come can make a difference in whether or not the divorce will be destructive or amicable. Read more…

The Flip Side … Men And Sex, Women And Sex

Men and Sex

Men think more about sex. No breaking news there. Studies concluded that a little more than half of adult men up to the age of 60 think about sex at least once a day. Men fantasize twice as much as women, though both fantasize less as they age. Men want sex more often than women. If you were to plot the sex drive of men during the different stages of a relationship — start, middle and many years later — it would be a straight line graphic. Read more…

The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly — Divorce Hollywood Style

Okay, maybe there is no such thing as a good divorce, but certainly some are better than others. Even among the Hollywood elite, there are a few that stand out. Read more…

The Heartbreak Of Children Having Children

When I think back on my years as a teenager, they are, for the most part, filled with happy memories of school, friends and special family moments. I can’t begin to comprehend the fear and despair a teenage girl feels when she learns she is pregnant. I also remember that, despite having many good memories, the teenaged years are a time of uncertainty, learning and growing, angst ridden to the nth degree. The simplest things can seem insurmountable at that age, so facing something as life changing as an unexpected pregnancy must be devastatingly difficult. Read more…

The Importance Of A Divorce Ritual

Why does ritual play such an important role in our lives, and why should you consider a ritual when a marriage ends?

Don’t laugh — a ritual symbolizing the end of a marriage can be as important and powerful as the ritual we observed to begin it. Marriage rituals are big business, and with the multiple-marriage factor in play today, it’s really big business. But for many, the thought of participating in a ritual to end a relationship may be considered pointless or not considered at all. Rather than looking at your divorce as a failure, why not consider it a chance for a new beginning, a rite of passage? Read more…

Three Ways To Let Go After A Divorce

“I’ve learned that when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock somewhere else.”
~Andy Rooney

There is a hard truth in these words, one that is difficult for many to take to heart. Yet, unless you let go of destructive, obsessive emotions, there is no forward movement in life. You will stagnate — even drown — in a pool of discontent and unhappiness. Read more…

Tweaking Parenting Time as Your Kids Age

Divorce is difficult. Not only for couples going through the process, but for their children. Splitting up a home, finances and lives is a minefield of decision making. Even the best parents struggle with emotions as they try to do what is right for their family.

Part of this challenge is coming up with a post-divorce parenting plan. As part of that plan, parents must determine a time schedule for their children that not only suits their own busy lives, but, more importantly, is beneficial for each child. It’s not simply a matter of deciding who wants who when and dividing up the calendar year. It is imperative that parents consider what is appropriate based on the age of each child and what developmental stage they are in. Read more…

When Love Blooms At Work

It happens more often than you might think. After all, anyone who works outside the home spends a great deal of time with like-minded people, co-workers who may understand and know them well. It’s bound to happen now and then, a connection between two people who already have a lot in common and spend a lot of time together. Read more…

Where Have All My Friends Gone?

The decree has been signed, it’s official and you are legally divorced. Hopefully, you are past the worst of it, you’ve grieved over your loss, you’ve settled into a new, single lifestyle, perhaps even found peace and harmony. But something is missing. Read more…

Who’s On First? Apps For Co-Parenting

Divorce. You’ve survived it. Everyone is settled into separate residences. Now the real chaos starts, only times two. It was a challenge shuffling kids back and forth to school, to extra-curricular activities, to see friends, etc., even when you were a single household. Now, add in the second residence, blended families, and multiple ex-spouses and it can be as confusing to keep track of the goings-on. Maybe as chaotic as the classic Abbot and Costello routine, “Who’s on First.” Read more…

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